If you arrived to the first paragraph, congratulations! For some reason I still haven't figured out why do we HATE being honest with ourselves...
As I sat here sipping my coffee, a wave of impatience washed over me, and I found myself silently criticizing the bartender. Why the delay? And why can't they perfect a simple cappuccino? In that moment of brewing negativity, I caught myself—falling back into the very patterns I've vowed to eliminate from my life for good. For good.
Personally, I had a deep aversion to criticism and the discomfort that came with having my flaws spotlighted. The truth is, none of us love being told that we don't measure up, nor do we enjoy confronting our own imperfections. Yet, when the opportunity arises to critique others, it's as if I couldn't wait to take center stage, microphone in hand, ready to broadcast their shortcomings.
We're experts at BS-ing ourselves, adept at turning a blind eye to the truths we find too sour to swallow. The brilliance lies not in the lies we tell ourselves but in waking up to the reality of our self-deception—there's undeniable power in learning to cut through our own crap.
We’re the first to point fingers, quick to highlight everyone else's flaws while conveniently ignoring our own mess. We moan about how the world's gone to hell because of others' failures, playing the blame game like seasoned pros. But what about taking a hard look in the mirror? Before we go promising the moon to others, maybe it’s time we kept a promise to ourselves for once. Why the hell are we so obsessed with expecting others to polish up our lives?
Feeling ticked off yet? Wondering who the hell I am to call you out? That irritation you're feeling is the spotlight hitting right on our collective bullseye of denial. We're hardwired to dodge the uncomfortable, a survival trick that's gotten way out of hand. Sure, hating on ourselves is a no-go, but there's gotta be a line. Enough with the endless whining and bitching about how everyone else is a walking disaster—mentally screwed, stinking up the place, or dumb as a bag of hammers. Take a moment to consider that, in the right (or wrong) light, you could be the one getting judged.
It's high time we faced the person in the mirror. Scrub off the day’s grime and seriously ponder—what the hell can I do to stop being my own worst enemy? Why do others get under my skin? Maybe because I’m letting myself down, first and foremost. Trashing others is just a mirror reflecting our own pile of internal garbage—resentment, disappointment, self-loathing, narcissism you name it.
So, what's on the agenda today to not be your own letdown? Are you going to step up and be the change or just another cliché-spouting bystander? Yeah, it sounds trite, but damn if it isn't true.
We're maestros of self-delusion, plugging our logic gaps with whatever feels good. Wanting to shed some pounds while wolfing down honey by the gallon because "it's natural"? Please. It’s just another lie we’re cozying up to because facing the grind is too damn hard. And those who always pick the lazy river end up going nowhere, stuck in a rut of instant gratification and self-pity. Time to ditch the excuses, confront the self-made illusions, and march down the tougher road—it’s the only one leading anywhere worth going.
Yes, while a skilled psychiatrist might approach these topics with more tact and delicacy, there's a certain value in adopting a more direct, no-nonsense attitude towards self-improvement at times. This isn't about being harsh for the sake of harshness, but rather about embracing a form of tough love towards ourselves! It's about recognizing that sometimes, the most profound growth and understanding come from confronting our realities head-on, even when it's uncomfortable or challenging. This approach isn't for everyone or every moment, but in the right context, it can be a powerful catalyst for change.
Look at your weaknesses and ask yourself why do I continually fall short of my own expectations. Why do I procrastinate? What's holding me back from completing that project or clearing out the clutter in storage? And why do I consistently seek refuge in the comfort of junk food? Confront these inquiries head-on and provide detailed responses to each before casting judgment on others. This introspection not only fosters self-awareness but also cultivates empathy and understanding towards the struggles of those around us.
Do you criticize others?
Always. I can't help myself!
Only when they tick me off.
Rarely..
No, I truly don't care about other peoples behaviours.
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